For the Record

In case you were wondering, the first time you see someone you know after learning that their child has cancer, it would be helpful for you NOT to share that your relative/neighbor/friend died of cancer when you were (insert age under 10). I know you are trying to show that you can relate. You cannot. The only way this information could be helpful would be if I were to say, "She is having a hard time with the chemo side effects in (insert particular issue)" and then you would say, "Oh, my relative/neighbor/friend found it helpful to do (insert suggestion which actually HELPED)."
Thank you.